How to: Be your best self

Doing well in life requires someone to actively be the best that they can be. Doing this, however, often requires a lot more conscious effort then many are currently putting into their lives. So here are some helpful hints on how to get their sooner, whether it be at work, or just in life.

Setting #Goals

Setting goals gives you focus, keeps you on track and gives you inspiration. But most importantly, goals help you to actually envision what a victory could look like, and hopefully inspire you to reach that victory. Goals are an important part of developing skills, and will always benefit those that are wanting to actively do their best. To help set a good life goal, think S.M.A.R.T:

Specific: don’t be vague about your goals or you will never know when you reach them.

Measurable: Give yourself a number that you want to reach, whether that be weight loss, number of friends, golf swings or projects, an actual number will make your goals assessable.

Attainable: Be realistic with your goals, don’t set something so high that you know you can’t obtain it, because then you may not bother starting towards it in the first place.

Relevant:  Is your goal a relevant part of your life? When you set goals, they should be in relation to your main life of career aspirations. Do the things that will really help you to get where you want to be. Don’t make goals that will be a detriment to your path.

Timely: Give yourself a timeline to help keep you on track.

Surround yourself with positive people

Throughout our lives, we are told to choose our friends wisely, and this is a piece of motherly advice that really does hold a lot of weight. People are largely effected by those they surround themselves with, it can change how they speak, dress, walk and how they see themselves. We are likely to be influenced by those who we value, so we should be valuing the people who also value us. ‘Good’ friends don’t have to be angels, but just a simple encouragement in your day to day life. Traits you may be looking for in these people are those who: Help you reach your goals, support you, make you feel valued and happy, amongst other things. If your friends are making you feel the opposite, then they may be holding you back from reaching your potential. But to find these people who make you feel good, we must first remember that good attracts good, be positive if you want to receive positivity.

Keep your work and life balanced.

Keeping a healthy balance to your life is vital to being your best. Using family time to check emails or time with friends to make work calls is a way of lowering your standard of living. The more time we spend mixing work with our home life, the less time you have to invest in yourself as a person. This means you may be stunting your own personal growth. While for some, this separation is impossible, for those who have the opportunity, it would be wise to take it while you can. To do this, it is recommended that you need a strict physical separation to support a proper mental separation. Keep your living areas ‘work-free’. Leave those files in a designated place, like a study, so your mind can properly associate different areas with different activities. Set aside time to do your work and respond to these emails and texts and make sure to keep to that so it won’t bleed into ‘you time’ (except in emergencies, of course!).  Also, try to keep work talk with friends and family to a minimum. While they are always there to help you de-stress, don’t use them like a shrink by continuously complaining about work. While they do love you, they probably don’t love your 20 minute rants on the new guy at work and their poor office etiquette.

This will help make your life feel more balanced.

Learn to accept Constructive Criticism

No one likes being told that they are doing something wrong. It always somehow manages to feel like a personal insult and an attack on your honour. But constructive criticism is often necessary to learn and grow. So, its key, to try and learn how to better internalise criticism also known as feedback or advise.

Try not to take it too personally, it’s not meant to reflect who you are as a person, because it is really just an observation on how you could possibly improve. Also make sure that those around you know that you are open to learning experiences and feedback. This will help to create a healthy conversation with those around you, where people feel empowered to help each other without feeling like they are accidentally hurting each other’s feelings. Lastly, no matter how counter-intuitive it may seem, try to end the conversation with a “thank you” to let them know that their opinion was heard and that you value their thoughts.

By Keralyn Lohr


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